I’ve gotten in the habit of trolling trashy mag comment sections. It’s just such easy prey. Say something that is the opposite opinion of every other poster and they are off for hours. There is generally the one that tries to reason with you, the rest name call like grade schoolers :-)
My name is Jennifer, I’m a 32 year old expectant mother, and I listened to rap on the way to work this morning and ate a cookie for breakfast.
Today marks the day that it has become uncomfortable to button my pants. 17 weeks and counting.
So apparently, watching what you eat, working out and drinking plenty of water during your pregnancy makes you obsessed.
According to some, having conversations with other women about when they started to show, wear maternity clothes and how much weight they gained, is obsessive.
Not surprisingly, the same people, are consumed with ‘concern’ when you turn down fast food, avoid sugary drinks and forgo caffeine.
Surprisingly, though, no one has these same worries when they see a mom eating bullshit, chowing down on McDonalds, slurping another coke - diet or regular - both full or crap, or sitting on their ass unhealthily gaining 50+ pounds.
You want to call me obsessed? I’ll be that. Yes, I most certainly am concerned with the care I take of my body, right now more than ever. My body is the vessel I’m carrying my child in. If I cave into every sugary, junk food craving, I can increase the risk of diabetes for my unborn baby. If I do not keep tabs on my sodium intake, I could have unsafe blood pressure, potentially leading to toxemia, a condition that causes a plethora of complications - some for myself, more for our precious bundle.
To be clear, giving a damn about my health, watching what I put into my body and striving to stay fit throughout this pregnancy, is the LEAST selfish thing I could do, and asking women I trust about their pregnancies and what to expect is NORMAL. Not only that, but watching my intake and working out, will make the labor and delivery easier for me and my bambino.
If that makes me ‘obsessed,’ then so be it.
Curiosity killed the cat. So I was ready to be offended and angry, but what’s the point. People are just inconsiderate. Tell me, why is it, that I’m not even 4 months pregnant, haven’t gained a pound, still wearing all my clothes and everyone that finds out I’m expecting immediately acts as though they already can tell. Yeah? Really? How about a manners pointer. When someone says, hey, I’m having a baby. You don’t say, oh yeah? I thought you were putting on a little weight. How about NOT being rude, and saying something novel such as that’s great news! Congratulations! THAT is appropriate. Anything else is nasty :-)
Another little tidbit, women aren’t particularly open about their weight to begin with, so making comments about it whether they are pregnant or not, is despicable. When did it become ok to comment on someone’s size?
And while I’m at it, pregnant people don’t like to be touched anymore than non pregnant people. So please, just keep your comments and hands to yourself. Consider how you would feel if people constantly wanted to rub on your stomach and comment on your scale number. Just don’t.
Pregnant during the Super Bowl? Bad idea. This? Almost made up for it.
I think many of my posts recently have made it clear that I am expecting. So I’m 3 months in now, no changes really, no cravings, no sickness. I’m also a nurse, ICU to be precise, for about 10 years now. I am currently doing the education for the SICU I work in as the CNL, and have my NP in addition to that. I work part time when I feel like it as an NP to keep my certification current. Mostly a weekend a month, nice pocket change, good experience, etc. – I promise I’m getting to my point.
One of our closest friend’s wife is also expecting. She is a month or so behind us, has no medical experience, has always wanted us to raise kids together, etc. I find it brilliant. It’s nice to have someone go through things with you, to share experiences, what not. I get the impression though, that she is less than pleased. She didn’t seem too interested/excited when we shared our news, and when sharing theirs, said something to the effect, “you’re happy? I thought you’d be mad because we stole your thunder.” Who says that?
Since then, she has “shared” our news with people, even though I haven’t officially told some of my own loved ones and friends, because I have been waiting for in person delivery and until things had progressed a little further. I didn’t say anything because she isn’t as close lipped with her news and probably thought nothing of it. Then some mutual friends, offered to throw us a joint shower. Where all of our friends could get together and ooh and aah over our good fortune. She was NOT happy. She called me upset, making excuses etc. So I reached out to these girls, made nice, showered them with appreciation and explained as tactfully as I could that our “friend” was more into her own themed shower.
So now, here we are. She was telling me again how it was crazy to throw a joint shower for 2 people and on and on. I went ahead and told her I had talked to our girlfriends and had explained that she was more in favor of a solo event. She was so relieved. She started on how they were really her friends, how she was sure I would have a nice shower as well – keep in mind I was this chics Matron-of honor, threw her a wedding shower, bachelorette party, the whole 9 yards, I did this even though we weren’t great friends, because her husband IS our best friend and my husband was standing up for him and did it 100% alone. I told her I wouldn’t mind sharing and that it would make it easier for all involved, she retorted with, “I don’t want to share.” At this point I am getting more than a little offended.
It’s not all hormones and sensitivity, she is also correcting me in regards to medical things as well. Health concerns with pregnant women, etc. Between school and my profession, I have over 10 years of experience. More if you separate school and work – which I did consecutively. I’m talking things ranging from trimester length (which depending on the source ranges), safe foods, safe activities, challenging what kind of stroller we are thinking (which I am not at this point), you name it. Now I am not an OB specialist, but I am trained to deliver babies, follow women throughout their pregnancies, and pretty much all other manner of activities. I find it laughable that she, an insurance adjuster, believe herself more knowledgeable – and NO I am not one of those people that doesn’t believe any manner of person can know a great deal about a great many things.
Feels like she is antagonistic. That she is defensive and I haven’t a clue why. I’m elated for them. I sent her a Belly book to document the whole process, have been a good friend (at least in my mind) over the past few years, was super supportive of her marriage and planning. I think it’ll be fun having young babies close in age. Her behavior baffles me and hurts actually. It’s not a competition. Maybe it is hormones after all?